Being parents is a big responsibility, and everyone understands this. But not everyone understands that they make mistakes in the upbringing of their children when, for example, they do not ask for their opinions or reason with them about the dishonesty of the next politician.
We offer you tips on raising a happy child.
10. Learn to build relationships
People are social creatures by nature. We need company and communication, some more, some less, but the fact of the need for contact with other people is undeniable. Unfortunately, socialization needs to be learned. If only because all people are different and everyone needs an approach for communication without consequences.
The child needs to be explained how to communicate with the older generation, which is unacceptable in relation to the younger ones. How to communicate with peers, how to get to know each other. In the end, the main thing is not to instill a child’s fear of communicating with new people - encourage his attempts to get acquainted and make contact.
9. More optimism
Do not load the child with negativity, do not swear with him with a soul mate, do not swear, do not report the government. You do not need to transfer your depressive mindsets to children, the child is a separate person. A person for whom every day is of interest and increased excitement from past impressions. After all, even a trip to the zoo will be remembered by the baby until he grows up.
So why destroy the love of life for your own child? Let it enjoy, but do not interfere.
8. Be happy yourself
As you know, children love to repeat everything after their parents, if only because they study, and parents are a great example to follow. If you do not want your child to swear - watch your speech. And if you want the child to smile around - show him how simple it is.
Until you yourself are happy, the child does not learn to be happy and in love with the environment.
7. Accustom self-discipline
Scattered toys - need to be removed. Demonstrate to your child that people should be able to take care of themselves. For example, if you are a mother and decided to do makeup while sitting on the bed, then after putting the marathon on, draw the attention of the child. Say that you have done your job and now you need to take away the "toys" in place. Demonstratively put the makeup in the right places, and most importantly - do not raise your voice, do not try to be strict or aggressive.
Children are very smart, they perfectly understand our speech. Just say without teacher severity.
6. Do not hide emotions
Recall that the child understands everything, so why dissemble? You are an adult, you have problems, you have the right not to restrain emotions. This does not mean that you need to yell, get into a fight, throw things. But restraining natural impulses is harmful. Laugh, speak strictly, if you are unhappy, cry if you are upset.
This is a plus for the child and your interaction with him. Because the baby is sure to come up to ask what happened and you will have the opportunity to explain to the child how, for example, emotions work. Or to invent a silly fairy tale that is crying because you really want ice cream.
Children feel our emotions and moods, so do not teach your child to wear a mask from childhood. This is an extra function with loved ones, you need to trust each other and share even unpleasant moments.
5. Show what an interesting life
Travel, go to parks, ride rides. Tell us about languages, about swimming, about archery. Children do not know so many things about our world, and you are a guide to everything interesting and worthy of attention.
The more you tell and show your child the different facets of life, the more versatile and erudite a person will grow.
4. Appreciate the effort and not the perfect result.
All people are born with a different set of data, according to which you can later determine what a person is talented in and what is not given to him at all. So stop pecking your child at the top for another “math” in mathematics, better see how he writes school essays lively! Children are not robots, they, like us, do not like to do something, but from something the eyes burn with excitement. So appreciate the child’s labor and invested efforts: he spent the whole evening trying to learn the function of “addition”, praise him. Help if it is too difficult. And do not scold for anything if the next day he brought a bad mark! He tried, he tried to do well.
Appreciate his efforts, praise for the attempt, cheer up, saying that every time everything will turn out better.
3. Play with the kids
Games are a great opportunity to spend time with your child. Build a space liner from a half-lost constructor or move into a house made of stool and plaid. The child will feel unity with you and get used to you as a friend. In the future, when he grows up, it will be very beneficial for you, because subconsciously the baby will remember that you are a friend who is able to come up with something interesting and help with any difficulty.
Use games to explain life situations, for example, if a child plays a fight or throws a toy hard, you can explain to him that fighting is bad, that you can't offend the younger ones, and it can be painful for toys.
2. Rejoice at the little things
Remember that children are our reflection. Therefore, teach your child to enjoy not only global things, but also small surprises. You may not get to fanaticism: singing Disney songs every morning, looking at the birds outside the window is optional. But you can sincerely be glad that dad came home from work earlier. Or "four" for the control. Why wait for the end of a whole quarter to rejoice?
1. Give the opportunity to choose
The main thing to remember: a child is a separate person. It's not you. No need to shift your unfulfilled childhood dreams to a child. No need to decide what would be better for him: singing or drawing. Ask him. Many adults underestimate the intelligence of their children, but very in vain. Sometimes it’s enough just to ask what the child wants, he’s unlikely to tell you that he wants to jump into the sewer manholes. He is the same person as you, only small. He, just like you, has thoughts about what he wants to do in life. Not globally, of course, but in the near future.
So if the question arises, how to spend leisure time, in which section to give, which language to start learning - let the child choose himself. A brief tour of karate or boxing and the child will understand what he likes more.
In the end, they themselves live their lives.