There are no ideal families: crises happen even for happy couples. However, even a serious crisis can be overcome if people really love and respect each other.
So, let's look at 10 problems in marriage that wise couples can easily cope with.
10. Overweight
Having married, many people begin to quickly gain excess weight. In general, women and men living a family life weigh several kilograms more than their single friends.
This is often due to the fact that husbands and wives feel psychological confidence, comfort. They do not doubt their soul mates and allow themselves to relax a bit. Unfortunately, it often turns out that the spouses start themselves completely, and then they are surprised at the lack of interest in themselves.
To avoid such problems, you can try to take care of yourself together. It is much more difficult to follow the diet or play sports, when the second half absolutely does not support this. It’s not necessary to go to the gym all the time: some people have enough daily alleys.
9. The financial crisis due to the birth of children
Young people often face the fact that after the birth of long-awaited children, the financial situation in the family catastrophically worsens. This greatly overshadows the happiness of motherhood and fatherhood.
People rarely very well manage to prepare well for the appearance of heirs, but you can try. Even before the birth of a child, try to avoid unnecessary expenses, start saving money.
You will be able to do without carrying a kangaroo, walkers, and the most necessary things (such as a stroller) can be purchased already used.
8. The habit of spending money differently
Husbands and wives quarrel very often over money. After the wedding celebration, the budget becomes common, but some people can not get used to this state of affairs for a very long time.
To avoid quarrels, you need to learn how to discuss financial issues and take care of prioritization in advance. Do repairs or take a trip next year? Invest or save money?
Having dealt with a number of important issues, you will greatly facilitate the life of yourself and your soulmate.
7. Irritation due to the habits of the spouse
At first you are even pleased with the shortcomings of a lover, and after a year of family life many of his habits begin to annoy. This is a common thing. Irritation is not at all a sign that feelings are leaving.
How to deal with the problem? It remains only to reconcile. Try to remind yourself as often as possible that it is the habits of a lover that give him uniqueness. After all, you began to have tender feelings for this particular person.
If the annoyance does not go away, find yourself an activity outside the house to manage to miss your husband or wife.
6. Boredom
Unfortunately, the magic of the honeymoon does not stay with the newlyweds for life. Sooner or later, life becomes boring, and there is boredom. If you suddenly get bored of romantic evenings, bouquets of flowers, tender confessions, remember that now you have something more: a common future. Try to appreciate it.
Of course, now the relationship does not resemble an endless celebration, but you can occasionally bring romance into them. Go for walks under the moon, go to theaters and cinema. So you can diversify everyday life, and there will be no boredom in your family.
5. Staying together 24/7
Some believe that husband and wife should always be together, because this helps to create common interests and strengthen relationships. However, many people after several years of such a life begin to get annoyed even in small things.
To avoid this, do not forget to devote time to your own interests and sometimes be alone, alone with your thoughts. Do not “dissolve” in your partner and let him sometimes spend time without you. He will be very grateful and will answer the same.
4. Bad friends
After the wedding, the spouses make new friends: friends of the wife, husband. Unfortunately, in some cases, the second half does not like the friends of the spouse.
It may seem to a man that his other half spends too much time with his friend. He may find that friends have a bad influence on a husband or wife.
Everyone can think as they see fit, but keep in mind that a partner is not required to communicate only with you. If a lover's friend is not a negative person, does not seek to destroy the family, leave the partner alone. Let him form his own social circle.
3. Different sleep patterns
It is proved that people are divided into owls, which are more active in the evenings or even at night, and larks who wake up in the morning awake and aimed at labor exploits.
If one of the spouses is an owl, and someone is a lark, this can become a real problem. However, different biological rhythms negatively affect marriage only in those cases when people do not know how or do not want to find compromise solutions.
Try to negotiate, set aside specific hours for each other when no one is sleeping or working. It is not as difficult as it might seem at first glance.
2. Housework
It’s the 21st century, but some people still believe that only a woman should keep order in the house and cook. Because of this, there are a lot of conflicts in families, because it turns out that modern women are forced to work and do household chores. This is unfair.
People living together should distribute responsibilities so as to make life easier for each other. If, for example, a wife works more than her husband, it will be quite fair if he takes over a significant part of household chores.
1. Flirt with others
Is flirting with someone who is not a legitimate husband or wife a serious misconduct? Opinions vary greatly here. Someone is not at all worried about such flirting, and someone perceives them almost the same as treason.
To avoid serious conflicts, it is worth discussing this issue at the beginning of the relationship. If you still find yourself in an unpleasant situation, talk to your soulmate, tell us about your discontent. Silence should not be, otherwise then resentment will accumulate and splash out at the most inopportune moment.